What to wear on a first date and why it’s important!
The dilemma ‘What to wear on the first date?’ is the one that we women have been trying to solve for decades. But why is it so important for us?
You’ve always heard that first impressions are important, and that you never get a second chance to make one. Why?
When you meet someone new, his or her brain forms an impression of you in just one-tenth of a second! Within 60 seconds, it’s processed as many as 10 000 visual, oral, and tactile cues as to who you are, what you’re like, and whether or not they’d like to get to know you better. These cues are weighed in the brain’s more primal, emotional centers, which instantly produce a visceral assessment, a gut feeling as to whether you’re a potential threat or asset.
So, the ‘dress to impress‘ pressure is real. Not only are first impressions registered with lightning speed, but they last a surprisingly long time. Due to the ‘primacy effect‘, people tend to lend more weight to the things they learn initially about someone, rather than the information they take in later.
The initial impression you make forms a kind of filter or lens through which a new acquaintance will henceforth see you; moving forward, they’ll look for behaviors that confirm their conclusion, while largely ignoring things that contradict it. Once you’ve made an initial impression on their mind, the rest of the relationship tends to follow its contours, affecting all their future thoughts about you.
Research has in fact found that it can take up to six months of regular contact with someone to change their initial impression and alter the lens through which they see you.
So what to wear on a first date?
A first date is not the time to experiment with the latest trends, but you can trust your gut if you want to. If the date eventually blooms into a relationship, it should be clear that you wear what you want because you want to.
Don’t dumb down your style for a stranger, but simplify your favorite silhouettes. At the very least you’ll figure out the formula on how to look amazing, maintain your personal style, and be comfortable. No matter what, just always remember to K.I.S.S.: keep it simple, stupid.
First thing, it’s important to always check the venue online. Let the location help you because your look should reflect your environment.
Comfort should be your first priority! If you look uncomfortable, then chances are that your date is going to feel uncomfortable around you. Wear something that puts you at ease. So, the test is: If you feel uncomfortable wearing an outfit in your own home, change it!
The next important thing that you should keep in mind is ‘Don’t show too much skin!’. Be sexy, but don’t give it all away. Avoid extremes like overly trendy outfits or heavy makeup. Natural and minimal is always best for the first date. Toe the line between sexy and boring in a slip dress, but tone it down with casual accessories.
Something to remember: Choose a color or outfit that you are often complimented on!
A great advice: Don’t wear heels on a first date! If the date’s activities are a mystery and you end up on your feet for hours at length, a pair of platform espadrilles are perfectly acceptable.
When in doubt, wear your favorite things. Don’t overthink it! Much like life itself, you don’t want to overthink it and complicate your outfit with un-necessities. If you can’t decide what to pick, just wear your absolute favorite items. You’ll feel more confident in something you already know and love
Laurie Davis, the founder and CEO of eFlirt Expert, tells The Fashion Spot that you shouldn’t stress out too much about a first date outfit. It’s what you wear on the next few dates that are more important. How you dress after a first date can tell someone how you feel about them more accurately. For example, if you notice that you start dressing down, that probably means that you’re becoming more comfortable with the person.
Good luck on your first date and remember to always be yourself!